October 27, 2010
Sometimes I find myself feeling a little jealous of The Supermom. The woman who manages to volunteer, host playdates constantly, work, etc, etc. I think about all they must accomplish outside of their home and I feel a little jealous. It makes my dishes, laundry, and endless list of chores seem insignificant. I sometimes begin to wonder if I am making a difference at all. However, when I look closely, these women seem very stressed, their kids seem stressed sometimes and it isn’t as perfect as it all seems from a distance. I have my own set of rules that I follow to keep me in check to make sure our life doesn’t become too terribly crazy. I am not willing to host more than one dinner party/play date each week, sometimes less. I only volunteer for one role at a time and I make sure it will not suck a significant amount of my time away from my kids. I don’t have GNO more often than once or sometimes twice per month. And, I do turn down opportunities to playdate or volunteer if I feel as though it will be too much for our family. Because, while I LOVE doing things outside of my home that contribute to society, someone else without small children could easily come along and fill those roles. But, nobody can fill the role of Jeremiah’s wife and mother to our children. I want to be a great wife and mom first, then the rest is just filler. It is just nice to remind myself of that from time to time when I need a little perspective.